Reflective Seeds by Counsellor Seyram

The concept of accountability can be considered as the values of upholding certain standards of honesty, dependability, responsibility and excellence in execution of duties and human relations. To be accountable is to acknowledge your role play in happenings and making a conscious effort to right wrongs where necessary. Living by standards of accountability helps to ensure that your actions are undertaken with caution bearing in mind the repercussions of those actions on yourself and others in your sphere of influence. Accountability can be enforced by the individual when he or she is honest enough with him or herself to identify, accept and remedy shortcomings when they occur. However, it is quite common for one to lose sight of such lapses due to human weaknesses and absence of a support system to keep us in check. This highlights the need to have an accountability partner. Here are some few reasons why you may want to consider having an accountability person - if you do not have o...

I never thought I would have the courage to share this, but the lessons I have learnt might help someone else. In my early thirties, I returned to school for graduate studies. I was single and focused — and I certainly didn’t expect that an academic environment would be a breeding ground for sexual predators. I have kept myself for marriage. It’s not something I broadcast, but my innocence in this area tends to show. That year, I also lost my father. In my grief and vulnerability, I longed for someone who could fill that emotional gap. That, in hindsight, was my mistake. Here’s the truth: accomplished older men are often drawn to younger women who admire them — especially those who appear vulnerable. Over time, four lecturers made sexual advances toward me. At first, I thought something must be wrong with me . I even went to therapy. Therapy helped me see clearly: that some men are just predators. They target women who remind them of the dreams they once had — or the power they want to...

According to the Collins dictionary, a relationship is an emotional or other connection, association or involvement between two or more persons by blood, marriage or other social means. Relationships may be intimate, casual, platonic, romantic, co-dependent, open, sexual or even toxic. Some forms of relationship include family, friendship, acquaintances or social (work, religious affiliations, events), sexual or situationships. This implies that a relationship may have positive or negative impact on the parties involved depending on the form of relationship they share and the sense of commitment they attach to it.   Relationships especially involving two persons of the opposite sex may be intimate, platonic, romantic, open or sexual. However in instances where the relationship is one intended for courtship or marriage, it is important for the couple to focus on building and maintaining a positive focus for continuity. Unfortunately, excuses are often made on why multiple partners...

The Cambridge online dictionary defines waiting as “to allow time to go by, especially while staying in one place without doing very much, until someone comes, until something that you are expecting happens or until you can do something”. The Collins Dictionary also expresses the term wait as “when spending some time doing very little, because you cannot act until that thing happens or the person you expect arrives”.  To wait in life basically implies experiencing a pause or halt in a hitherto planned life pattern or schedule due to a reason or two. As we go through life, there may be reasons which can compel us to wait for someone or something. Some may be voluntary while others may be involuntary. Involuntary reasons for waiting in life includes unemployment, financial challenges, issues with social interactions, environmental constraints, religious demands,   relationship problems, disasters, sudden loss or illness, death and   other existential issues. Volunt...

In our part of the world, the ultimate goal for most marriages is to procreate but years into our marriage, we realised that our dream was not forthcoming. In the initial stages, we were not affected because we had so much hope in God and the bond between us was just too strong for anything to break us. However, at a point, I realised that we were drifting apart, which I think was as a result of our inability to conceive. After visiting several hospitals alongside herbal treatments, we were still not seeing results. Instead, it was one sickness after the other which led to so much anxiety especially for me. The realisation that we were growing and that time was not on our side coupled with hurtful comments from close friends at work and church against us to confuse my husband and encourage him to have children out of wedlock worsened my state. I developed severe anxiety disorder as a result and had to focus on treating the disorder.  While dealing with the anxiety disorder, other ...

One morning, I was headed out to town. A distance before I arrived at the bus station, a bus conductor signalled me to join their bus - a wine coloured commercial bus known as " trotro " in Ghana. Upon reaching the bus station, I saw another bus (a green one) ahead of the one I had initially been called to join. Compared to the wine bus which was still relatively empty, the green bus was full of passengers and would be in motion faster. By my calculations, I would be better off reaching my destination faster via the green bus; so, I went past the wine bus and settled in the green bus. As we were en-route on the main road, we encountered the usual buzzing traffic experienced by most commuters in the capital. The driver, therefore, decided to take a detour to avoid the traffic and reconnect later to the main road. No passenger on board really complained about his actions at this point.  Then, unfortunately the new route proved to have a higher traffic experience as compared t...