HEALING TOGETHER: WHEN HOPE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE!

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I was a new mum in 2020 when I lost my job unexpectedly. I didn't see it coming! I didn't contribute to it in anyway. It just happened because someone wanted to bring in their relative and I was the sacrificial lamb!

This affected me both mentally and physically. I got depressed. It was a bitter pill to swallow.  It also affected my marital home because it meant that we had just one source of income. You couldn't ask for anything; all responsibilities were on the man.

There were times I wanted to just leave the house but to where? I didn't have any money. I knew I was mentally exhausted but I could not even open up to people because I didn't want a pity party neither did I want my issues moving around.

Also, I am quite paranoid so I was scared to open up to people. It was not an easy journey. For four (4) years I lost myself, I wouldn't even look in the mirror.

I honestly don't know how I got out of that difficult phase of my life. I also don't recall doing anything specially to get out of the situation but I found strength in God and in myself. It made my relationship with God better. I had to solely depend on Him for both emotional and physical strength. I guess I held on to hope.

Fortunately God came through for me after four (4) years of waiting when I applied to school abroad and I received a fully funded scholarship. I am doing well and can only get better. Indeed, the gloomy season is gone and I feel alive and well now. 

Lessons learnt

  • You cannot put your trust in man.
  • People may make promises to help you but none will come through.
  • Learn to trust God in every sense of the word!
  • Get a trusted person to talk to as bottling up your emotions can negatively affect your wellbeing.

- Story Shared by Maa Abena

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